Sunday, November 21, 2010
With Turkey Day approaching, I think it is important for us to remember what this day actually means. And no, not the part where hundreds of my own ancestors were slaughtered... (that's a whole other blog together.) But sometimes we get so wrapped up in the holiday madness that we forget what their purpose is. Thanksgiving is a day to give thanks. I like to give thanks for just about everything in everyone in my life. Too many times do I see others taking people and things for granted and I promised myself long ago that I never would.
It's amazing how far a thank you can go. It can make one feel worthy. It can make one feel important. It can make one feel seen. Never underestimate the power of words. Telling someone thank you could change a lot of things for a lot of people. Maybe one could tell one's mother, thank you for raising and taking care of me. Or tell dad, thank you for teaching me honesty and hard work. Thank you, Husband, for putting up with me. :) Others guards can be lowered, and finally you are living the relationship the way you were meant to live it.
I also like to thank the things that do not exist in the physical form, necessarily. Thank you pain, for teaching me what it is to be without you. Thank you heartbreak, for allowing me to let go. Thank you happiness for always being there, to where I could always choose you if I wanted to. Giving thanks for these things can give us clarity, humility and above all the graciousness that we are human, and alive to feel everything. Something to be very thankful for.
This Thursday, take the time to tell the people and things in your life "thank you". You'll never know when they can be taken away from you and you may never get the chance to show them your gratitude. You can possibly change your life as well. With this honored saying, you can tighten your bond with everything in your life. Heal the wounds between you. Build that bridge once again. Let down our egos and be humble. Be grateful. Be the person you've always wanted to be. What harm could those two words cause? None!
"Benjamin, we're meant to lose the people we love. How else would we know how important they are to us?"
-Mrs. Maple, from The Curious Case of Benjamin Button.
Wednesday, November 10, 2010
I have decided -- whatever it takes...
Whatever it takes, to be happy. To be healthy. To be without pain. To be without fear.
To be complete. To be successful. To be without regret. To be without suffering.
Happiness is a choice, and one has to actually choose happiness in order to be happy. I know this from lots of experience.
One can also choose to be miserable, but hey, how would misery ever be actually better for you than happiness?
Cut out the things that make you unhappy. Quickly! Right now!! It may hurt for a moment, like ripping off a band-aid and exposing your wound. But hey, how will your wounds ever heal if you keep wrapping them up or making them worse than they already are. Without seeing your emotional, spiritual, physical wounds healed, how can you feel completely happy about yourself in every single way right now?
Choose happiness, in everything you do, see and feel -- and you will become happy.
Healthiness is the same thing. Choosing the right foods, exercises, habits, rituals and thought processes will make you healthy. We all know what unhealthy foods can do to your body, and why would you choose to damage the only vessel you have been given for this one lifetime? If you have always had issues with choosing the right foods, ask yourself why. Is it because of an emotional wound? A mental wound? Even a spiritual one?? If so, heal those wounds as soon as possible so you can live a life of complete healthiness.
Do you hate working out? Why? We all have strength, endurance and intuition already in us. We ARE, much stronger than we truly think we are. This is not a LIE. We can ALL put our mind over our matter in a healthy way that will only increase our endurance and physical fortitude over time. Cut out the bad habits and rituals and temptations. Do it!! And you will feel better! I promise you!
To be complete one must find fulfillment in everything that one does. And I mean everything. Whether it is your career or relationships... or even your rest and play. If you consciously think about everything you do all of the time, you can only choose to improve every aspect of your Life, all of the time.
Forget about your excuses, your placates, your rationalizations -- these things do not help you, they can only hurt you! And keep you down, in the dark, and incomplete.
Ask yourself the question one of my best friends, "Strength", asked my the other night... "What is best for Jo?"
And all of a sudden my mind just clicked! You are so right, Strength. How could I have been so blind? I've spent all this time thinking about what was best for him, or for her. For the older one, for the younger one... without thinking what is best for me!
So ask yourself, "What is best for YOU??"
I can cut out my pain. I can cut out my fear. I can choose healthiness, I can choose happiness for myself! Me, myself and I! And I will feel complete once again! And honestly, so can you.
Love yourself... and this is where it all begins.
"To Live in Love is to be Alive."
-Don Miguel Ruiz
Sunday, November 7, 2010
Magnetism is the force where objects are attracted or repelled to one another.
What attracts us to certain things or people, more than others? Are we attracted to things based on our perspective and opinions, i.e. what we consider to be beautiful? And if so, what is beautiful? If beauty is truly in the eye of the beholder, then the definition of beauty changes from one person to the next. But is beauty the driving force? Or is it something deeper? Way below the surface of an individual and attracts us to one another? Or is it simply Fate? Are we attracted to a certain person or thing because we were meant to?
We know what we like, by now, I would think of what we're attracted to. A certain pair of eyes, a body, a mind, a heart. I'm not saying that attraction can't wildly vary i.e. he always loved girls with dark hair and eyes, but ends up marrying a blond... (in simplest terms). But... when something or someone is presented to us, we can usually just go to a snap judgement, or opinion... beautiful, or not. Attractive, or not. We know what we like, just by looking at it. It is instinctual maybe, or maybe it comes from the gut more than from the mind.
Beauty is a tricky thing. We can find a beautiful person, then as we peel back the exterior, and you can find that the interior ain't so pretty. And the attraction can be severed, regardless of how outer beautiful the person is. The varying of beauty is a phenomenon too. A guy can say, this tall red is beautiful and also say, that short brunette is beautiful too. Someone else looking on these two women could, say... "yeah, I agree with the first, but not the latter." Everyone is different. Everyone has different tastes.
Or is it something much deeper than that? Are we made a certain way to be attracted to a certain person? Or are we taught what is beautiful by our parents, teachers, even our friends...what is accepted to be beautiful in society, and so we want to be attracted to a certain type of person to be accepted in society.
I always wondered if we were all just glowing balls of light. Everyone the same. Same size. Same color. Same everything. What would we look for in each other to decide whether we were attracted to them or not? Their age? Their knowledge? Their beliefs?
Or would we just be automatically drawn together like a pair of magnets? Where the force is so undeniably strong, we couldn't resist. That it's not so much of how similar we are, just that we feel deep down such a strong force that pulls us in, and we are too weak to repel it.
"So it's not gonna be easy. It's gonna be really hard. We're gonna have to work at this every day, but I want to do that because I want you. I want all of you, forever, you and me, every day."
-Noah, from The Notebook